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Hello I'm Saph

Thu 12 Mar 2009 5:59pm

Hi everyone!  My name is Saph (online name) & I have a 10 year old daughter who has Asperger's syndrome, ADHD & mild Dyspraxia.  She is in mainstream school & has 5 hours of 1:1 per week paid for by CLASP.  Our SENCO doesn't think that she will be statemented & we will be going for CLASP again in May. 

 Hope to get to know you all soon!

 Love to you & yours



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    Something I found online & has helped me...

     The Special Mother by Erma Bombeck

    Most women become mothers by accident, some by choice, a few by social pressures and a couple by habit. This year nearly 100,000 women will become mothers of handicapped children. Did you ever wonder how mothers of handicapped children are chosen?

    Somehow I visualize God hovering over earth selecting his instruments for propagation with great care and deliberation. As He observes, He instructs His angels to make notes in a giant ledger.

    "Armstrong, Beth; son. Patron saint...give her Gerard. He's used to profanity."

    "Forrest, Marjorie; daughter. Patron saint, Cecelia."

    "Rutledge, Carrie; twins. Patron saint, Matthew."

    Finally He passes a name to an angel and smiles, "Give her a handicapped child."

    The angel is curious. "Why this one God? She's so happy."

    "Exactly," smiles God, "Could I give a handicapped child to a mother who does not know laughter? That would be cruel."

    "But has she patience?" asks the angel.

    "I don't want her to have too much patience or she will drown in a sea of self-pity and despair. Once the shock and resentment wears off, she'll handle it."

    "I watched her today. She has that feeling of self and independence that is so rare and so necessary in a mother. You see, the child I'm going to give her has his own world. She has to make him live in her world and that's not going to be easy."

    "But, Lord, I don't think she even believes in you." God smiles, "No matter, I can fix that. This one is perfect -she has just enough selfishness." The angel gasps - "selfishness? is that a virtue?"

    God nods. "If she can't separate herself from the child occasionally, she'll never survive. Yes, here is a woman whom I will bless with a child less than perfect. She doesn't realize it yet, but she is to be envied. She will never take for granted a "spoken word". She will consider a "step" ordinary. When her child says "Momma" for the first time, she will be present at a miracle, and will know it!"

    "I will permit her to see clearly the things I see...ignorance, cruelty, prejudice....and allow her to rise above them. She will never be alone. I will be at her side every minute of every day of her life, because she is doing My work as surely as if she is here by My side".

    "And what about her Patron saint?" asks the angel, his pen poised in mid-air.

    God smiles, "A mirror will suffice."

  • TomGray's picture
    Wow, thanks for sharing that!
  • NickyB's picture

    Hello Saph and welcome Smile

    That was a fascinating post.

    Nicky - Community Champion
  • Saph's picture

    Thank you.  It's good to be here!

     I thought others would like to read it too, just substitute Dad for Mum if you are a bloke!  Haha!

  • MarcoS's picture

    Hello Saph,

      Welcome to the boards.  I did enjoy that post of yours.

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