my 5 year old boy diagnosed with asd last august, we see a peadiatrition regularly and we had a meeting last year with school senco ( i had to push for this ) to be fobbed off saying he is settled in school etc only to go back to the peadiatrition to be told he needs the CAf being done so she wrote to the school and heard nothing. i then had a appointment a few weeks ago and the peadiatrition said has the CAF been done as he had a letter in front of him saying it was and that his other peadiatrition had wrote to them. my son has been going for lunch in nursery as they cannot cope with his behaviour (lunchtime staff) and we have had various incidents but nothing like today. I went to pick him up from school today, to be told the teacher wants to speak to me. she said they had a very serious incident and that my son had put his hand up a girls skirt and tickled her, they tried to sort it out and he got very angry and was lashing out so in which resulted him spending the afternoon in the headteachers office, my son automatically came running up to me and i asked him what had happened he said it was because he missed me, he then got excited and said im going to my friends house for tea, i said sorry but you cannot go now for behaving this way at school, he completely lashed out at me and ran off outside to his friend, my friend kindley watched my son while i spoke to the teachers. they said to me what are the peadiatritions and doctors doing as he needs some sort off anger management, i was like the peadiatritions requested you do a caf so i can accsess the childrens centres as they wont acept him with out it, i said they have wrote to you, the senco were supposed to call us in after christmas and weve heard nothing, by this point im tearful as i felt it was me that is letting my son down, had i done enough. they said they have not recieved any letters and if i was happy to they are going to get someone to come into school and assess him. ive come home and i was so upset, i feel like i have pushed and pushed for help and we havent got it, now 1 incident after him being in nursery for 2 years and reception nearly 1 year they feel the need to get involved (what ive wanted all along ) i have spoken to my son and ive asked him what happened he said she did it first, i said what first, he said tickled me, i said where and he pointed to his bits, i said what did you do, he told me he did it back. now i can think straight am i right in to thinking they should have rang me if he had been sat in the office all afternoon and had lashed out, i really need advice as im so fed up with this school, there is too many incidents to put down but i feel the warning signs have been there for a very long time and no one has listened when i have raised concerns.