I have a 13 year old son with ASD. He was diagnosed when he was 9. Unfortunately his diagnosis did not lead to improved support for him at school (mainstream) and a few months later he suffered a mental health crisis and dropped out of school. He was subsequently diagnosed with agoraphobia. We then secured some home tutoring for him (provided by the LA) whilst we helped him to overcome his agoraphobia. We also got a statement for SEN (on second attempt) and after gradual transition he started at a special school for ASD pupils.
His first year then went reasonably well though at times he found it difficult (the school is some distance from school). Then the school holidays happened. On his return to school (2011) he became extremely anxious (as he does with change) but he went into school and we thought all would be OK. Unfortunately he was so overwhelmed by his first day back that he became unwell with anxiety and his behaviours worsened plus he couldn't sleep etc. We got psychiatric support, modified his medication and slowly he improved. At the same time, we started to expose him back to school and eventually he was able to do one week of part time lessons. Unfortunately he couldn't cope and he regressed again and ever since then he refuses to go back. He refuses to talk about school and becomes aggressive whenever we try and mention it.
We have home tuition in place and a whole host of professionals helping us but we are not getting anywhere. My son refuses to go back. We have tried to find out if there was anything specific that was upsetting him but he is unable to tell us (though he is verbal). I know he has a problem travelling far from the area he is living in and the school is a distance. We have to work very hard just to get him out of the house and visit our local town/park etc.
We are aiming to start again this autumn and his school are preparing transition for hm but my son refuses to engage with the idea. If he doesn't go back this Sept I don't know what to do; I am fearful that the LA will take his place from him. Unfortunately there ae no other schools near to us that can accommodate him and neither is home education (by me or his dad) an option due to other commitments but also because he refuses for us to teach him. Even his tutors are finding it hard going.
If anyone has experienced a similar situation or can offer any advice, I'd be very grateful.