This is my first time posting. I have a beautiful 14 month old, he is loving (with his mum anyway) and provides us with such joy, he can be a handful, climbing,getting into cupboards he shouldn't be in etc, but he is a funny little guy, often smiling and laughiing. There's just one small problem, I am positive he has some form of ASD.
A couple of months ago we had our 12 month Health visitor appointment, I told them he hardly ever responds to his name (he now doesn't at all..EVER). He didn't (and still doesn't) bring us new toys to share, point to what he wants or point things of interest out to us, neither does he make eye contact with us unless certain things are happening (e.g. playing peekaboo, getting changed). When he plays he doesn't 'pretend', although he will have a play with most things he gravitates towards toy cars etc. and just wheels them back and forth, he does hug a teddy bear though.
We've had his hearing tested, everything seemed fine, I knew there was nothing wrong with his hearing but realised we wouldn't get any further with getting him assessed until that had been ruled out. We have an appointment with HV in October, although I think I will be going sooner as I am not sleeping worrying about this. however my wife has rose tinted spectacles and has been reassured by family with things like 'oh, your brother did that and he's fine' etc, I just upset her when I try to talk about it. Dragging her to the HV/Docs is going to be difficult, doesn't help that I suffered from health anxiety a year or so ago so have a tendency to overthink things and believe certain diagnoses are certain when there are innocent explanations. I recognise the signs of that however and there doesn't seem to be any other explanation for his behaviour than ASD.
I don't quite know why i'm writing this post, I know nobody here can diagnose, If somebody were to reply and say 'that definately isn't autism' nobody would be happier than me, for a day or two and then I would just worry the same.
I guess i'm reaching out to people affected by autism to reassure myself that If (most likely when) my little angel does get diagnosed that this won't be the end of the world. It might also be helpful if anybody could tell me if it is likely that the NHS will do anything at 14 months, is there a minimum age they will refer for an assessment.
Anyway, thanks for listening, guess mainly I just want to talk about it to someone