My son is 5 year old, going to mainstream school in year 1. He was diagnosed with ASD when he was 2.5 years old. He has mild to severe difficulties with sensory, attention, communications and interacting with others, he also doesn't eat or drink well and needs to be supported for both eating and drinking.
He is supposed to be supported all the time in the school including break lunch times. I am worried that he isn't getting the support that he needs at school, many days when my wife picks him up, he is extremely anxious and sometimes he is throwing very bad tantrums, and this happens every day that he hasn't had his lunch or hasn't drunk at all.
He has extreme obsession with maths, and is very demanding for that, changes every conversions or activities to numbers, and only drinks or eat if distracted by maths. If given enough papers and pen, he will happily be busy with them for hours. I am worried about what's happening at school to him, is he left by himself with some papers? my gut feeling tells me that the full-time support that we have fought for isn't fully given to him, I think he is frequently left by himself, he may be not accompanied by an adult at lunch times. Many days school report (we get updated daily) says he has eaten all his lunch, but he actually has been starving, sometimes he has given his favourite snacks that we send every day to other pupils.
He cannot communicate well the days events to us. I don't know how to approach the school for these worries, I don't want to look unappreciative, at the same time I want he gets the support that he desperately needs, please share your ideas and or experiences.