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Can you help me find friends?

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WarriorOfEden


Can you help me find friends?

Sat 17 Jun 2017 6:48pm

Hi, you guys probably won't even bother to read this.... but it's practically impossible for me to make new friends outside of the internet world okay? IMPOSSIBLE!!! I am just too shy/cautious, I am too stranger aware... and people just don't see me as a friendly person. They see me as something to ignore...  

Ignorance, rude behaviour, physical abuse...I get all of this plus more every single day, well maybe not everyday but it feels that way... They either ignore, laugh at me, call me names or do other rude things (I.e one person spat on me!) so how is it possible to make friends when everyone treats you like thrash? And i do mean it, literally!  It's been like this for as long as I can remember... though I don't remember getting any of this when I was in the US. Yeah I still get people being rude at me for being American sometimes but not very often. I don't care about origins or looks, I just want people to be friendly to me, polite and respectful but I get none of that!

Youth clubs? Nope! There are no clubs or anything I can go to to meet new people so don't ask! None that are reasonbly priced that is... I don't connect with other Autistic people UNLESS they are at the same level of Autism as I am. You see, I am more able than most Autistic adults, I am able to walk into town, ride on the bus, go into the shops by myself. I am still working on my anger management but it has improved over the years...Sorry for the caps lock but I need to get my voice heard somehow and so many people just don't bother. 

I don't have Dyslexia or ADHD or OCD... I have Autism, Dyspraxia and PTSD, that is ALL! No physical disorders but I do ride on the bus frequently cuz I live a bit far from all the shops and stuff and it is a bit of a walk, especially in the summer.. I find it easer online becuz I can keep an eye on everything and everyone and I do, on Facebook only people with more than 1 mutal friend can send me requests and I always check before accepting! I am aware of scams and stuff, I can easily block out all the hatred and rudeness too and I don't have to go through the physical and mental pain. I also have an overprotective dad who won't let me see any boys no matter who they are! 

So how can I find friends with all these restrictions and problems??

 

  

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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  • WarriorOfEden's picture

    And you are ignoring me... I am running out of patience.... 

    A warrior from an unknown land here to protect those without a voice and those who deserve it
  • SherpaMum's picture

    Sorry, I haven't been on the site for awhile.

    there is no easy way to make friends, most of us only have one or two good friends and it takes years to make them.

    i know there are no youth clubs, but are there any other clubs or groups you could go to to meet people. These really are the best way to meet people who like the same things as you. Do you have any hobbies? I know you like the Internet, so are there any local computer groups? My son likes board games and has found a local gamers shop where he can make and paint models that he then can play a game with. He is high functioning ASD and it has taken him years to make friends at school. He struggles socially too. Finding people that like the same things as him makes it easier for him to talk to them, as there is something in common.

     

  • WarriorOfEden's picture

    There is nothing! There are clubs, none of them take in people on the spectrum! There is a local girls only gym in town and they can take me in but it's £5 a session and I have to undergo a introductory thing (or whatever it's called) first. I am thinking about it, another problem is the gym is located above the local post office and the only way to get to it is stairs.... no elevator, now I have no troubles with stairs (unless they are very steep or slippery) but my dad does, he is disabled and he would probably want to see what its like inside or speak to them.... so I don't know if it is possible. 

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  • SherpaMum's picture

    That sounds a good place to start. I hope they have disabled access so that your dad can go and see.

  • WarriorOfEden's picture

    No I don't think so...right now they are closed and undergoing maintenence. I have to wait until they reopen 

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